Exhausting and expensive are the only things we know about having a baby.  Are you sure that you are really really ready?  Let me tell you five (5) more thoughts to think about again and again.  By the way, this article is not to scare you, I am just stating facts and real experiences.

First, let me share my background.  I was the eldest, and I have tried taking care of my sister.  We are fourteen years apart.  I experienced being sleep deprived and her annoying tantrums.  I honestly didn’t want to have babies until I met the man who always makes me happy.  And of course, by watching The Return of Superman (Korean Reality Show).  Now, we have a two kids: a two (2) year old and a nine-month old, baby.

Here, I have gathered five (5) experiences or challenges that I haven’t seen anyone write about.

1. Passive Income

Once you meet your baby, you will be head over heels in love with him/her.  I bet every parent would like to resign from their work so that they could take care of their baby.  They also would like to see for themselves their first in everything (first word etc.)  It will be tough for you to wake up and perform properly at work because the night isn’t going to be smooth since you have to wake up multiple times to make milk, carry, and more.  Therefore, you should have some sort of passive Income that could cover your monthly bills, letting you focus entirely on taking care of your baby.

2.Change of Lifestyle

Do you usually exercise?  This time, even taking a bath would be a challenge.  Having time for yourself will be hard when you are the only one your baby is asking for.  You will be told that your baby will cry none stop if you aren’t home.  Since you love your baby so much, you would sacrifice that freedom/rest.

3.More house chores

More house chores come in when you have no one to help you.  Just in case you have someone to help you, it means, higher monthly bills, no explanation needed right?  Kidding aside, you sometimes want to double check the work of a nanny.

4. Live exclusively

What I mean by this is living without relatives.  Their comments might frustrate you, sometimes, making you feel bad about yourself. Sometimes, they will try to micromanage you thinking that they know what’s best for the baby. Sometimes they do, but sometimes they don’t. When they don’t, I just try and think that they have my children’s best interests. But I’m only human, so I can’t always think that way.  But on the other hand, they are the only ones you can trust if you need to leave your baby.

5.Hunger Strike

“Eat when your baby is sleeping”, everyone will tell you that.  When your baby is sleeping, you might be sleeping as well because you would want to take that advantage to rest.  You can also eat while holding your baby but you won’t be able to enjoy your food.  “Have someone hold your baby while eating,” that is possible too but can you manage to see your baby crying while you are eating?

Now, are you mentally ready?  I suggest that you try to babysit for a month, without rest day to feel what you will go through.  Are you scared yet?

There are solutions to those though.  Just look at your baby and by think that they will be the one who will take care of you when you get older 🙂

Latest process in applying for Philippine Passport in DFA East (Megamall)

We are still thankful that the process for our application went fast after waiting for three 3 hours.

Applying in DFA East (Megamall) is always a good choice because it’s part of a mall.  When we were asked to wait for three 3 hours, at first, we were surprised because it wasn’t part of the plan.  I even regretted myself for not reading more blogs about it.  Thank God we were in a mall!

After doing other activities just to kill time, let me share with you our process this time.

  1. I showed the stab given to me at the lady guard.  Thank you for letting us in even though we came in fifteen (15) minutes earlier.
  2. When we got in, we proceed to Step A where I showed the following:

a.  application form I downloaded here (No Signature and date).

b.  Photocopy of my passport (Mother’s passport)

c.  My baby’s original birth certificate from NSO.

Note:  Only these documents were given because my child is Illegitimate. 

We still have to wait a bit because we were the third one in the priority line. After giving the documents, the guy did something on this computer and we were given a number for the Step B.

3.  In step B, the three of us came in the window, showed the documents brought, signed the application form and gave us a receipt.

We waited our number to be called for Step B.  The waiting time wasn’t long.  I even brought out my original passport and my driver’s license but the lady didn’t even bother looking at it.  I was then thinking if I should have left them at home instead 🙂  She checked all the documents and asked me to sign the application form with date.  After giving us the receipt, we were told to proceed at the cashier.

4.  At the cashier, present only RECEIPT and CASH

It is written all over the cashier to present only these.  We paid PHP 1,200 (Rush: 5-7 working days) for this because it is a Saturday and it’s their rule.  Waiting time? I think it was less than five 5 minutes.

5.  Put the paper face down on the table beside window 18 (see below picture) and wait for your name to be called.

6.   Window 20 was where we were called.  Since our baby was asleep in my hands, my husband were asked to sign on a paper, it looks like an attendance.

We woke our baby to have her picture taken. Since she can sit with support, we were asked to put a box on a chair, and our baby were sitted there to have her picture taken.  The guy from Window 18 were called though, I think he is the expertise for babies, as I remember, it was also him who took a picture for our first born.

After the picture were taken, we were ask to verify the details on the computer and I was asked to signed in an electronic pad.

7.  The last part was the delivery, we gave the receipt to the delivery service and paid PHP 150.  Yes, we are still in the priority lane that we skipped about 10 people in line.

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June 16, 2018, Saturday, we went to SM Megamall to apply for a Philippine Passport for my second baby. All along, since we know we are with a priority, we knew that we will apply for the passport in no time.  But then, a priority was asked to wait for three 3 hours.

This time, we were dismayed because it wasn’t exactly the same before in 2016.

My common-law husband, Jinhee (five months baby), and I got there at 11:30 AM and we were given a stab to come back at 3:00 PM.  At first, I was confused because all along we thought that we will be prioritized because we have a minor with us.  The lady guard at the entrance said that there is a lot of priority who came in by 9:30 AM and that is why we can’t come in yet.  They are still finishing those who came in by 9:30 AM.

She gave a stab (picture below).

I thought for a second that I wanted to burst out in anger but thinking that it won’t be useful.  I then ask what should we do for us not to wait, she said that it would be best if we came in at 9:30 AM.  On the second thought, I was thinking if I should have made an appointment instead.

I wanted to go home right after we heard that from the lady guard but then, our firstborn was in the activity center.

We decided to finish the hour pass in the activity center as shown above then had lunch at Botejyu.

After we ate in Botejyu, we decided to look after my husband’s clothes in Uniqlo.  After looking around, we then knew it was already 2:30 PM.

We then decided to apply for the passport and thankful that the lady guard let us in.

When we got there, there was a long line with priorities and they were also asked to come back after an hour.

Our application went so fast.  See here our process we went through in applying for the passport.

What’s one thing that is usually Forgotten in buying baby stuff?

As a first time mother at 33 years old, I thought I knew everything from hearing stories from my friends who have kids. But no, you will never know until you become a mother.

It all started when I was 6 months pregnant when my partner and I decided to buy baby stuff.  If you searched the net, you will be overwhelmed just like I was.  Trust me, you got this.

Picture Reference

Anyways, back to my topic.  The one thing that is usually forgotten by everyone to buy is a pacifier and teether at once.  You might ask why this is usually forgotten?  After searching in the internet, I don’t see this to be included in their list.

I knew that this is needed when my baby started sucking her fingers.  Sometimes, she will hold the pacifier and bite the sides of the pacifier and I thought that she was just hungry, but she won’t drink her milk.  I then came to my app (BabyCenter) saying that its a sign of her growing two lower teeth.  I am glad that I got this kind of teether when I bought the basic kit for free.

Image result for chicco pacifier/teether

Forgotten in buying baby stuff

If ever you decided to buy a pacifier and teether at one, make sure that it has cover because your baby won’t be sucking her pacifier/teether all the time, too bad that the Chicco I got for free doesn’t have a cover.  You need to have your own case so you can bring it out.  Also, it is a good idea to have pacifier holder or clip because you won’t know what it touched.  Since I don’t believe in the 5-seconds germs rule.

What is the 5-seconds germ rule?  It is a myth that when your food fell, it is still safe to eat if it didn’t touch the ground for more than 5 seconds.

What have you bought that you think I don’t have yet?

Getting your baby passport?

Philippine Passport for two (2) months baby

Who is involved?  Two (2) months baby, me, and my common law husband
What happened? Applied a Philippine passport for my 2months old baby
Where did it take place?  DFA at SM Megamall, Philippines
When did it take place? November 5, 2016
Why did that happen?  We were planning to travel to Japan.

I went to DFA Megamall on November 5, 2016, with my partner to get a Philippine passport for our 2 months old baby.  We went there without any appointment unlike for a regular adult that you need to set a date with time.  Same goes for senior citizens (60 years old and above), you don’t need to set an appointment as well.

Let me share with you the requirements that were asked of me in the first step.  These are the following:

Original NSO Birth Certificate of my baby.
Photocopy of my Philippine passport.
Before we got there, I read somewhere that only one (1) companion is allowed.  However, they (men at the entrance) also let my common-law husband join us inside.  I am so thankful since it is hard to look after a baby alone and do something at the same time (applying).

Since our baby is just two (2) months old, we always have a stroller around and they allowed us to bring it inside as well.

By the way, the reason we chose SM Megamall was that DFA is located inside the mall.  Well, it isn’t really inside the mall, you just have to exit the mall then a few steps is DFA.

After giving the requirements, we lined at the cashier.  The person in charge was quite rude, but not to us.  Maybe because the regular person wasn’t reading since information is already posted.  After paying at the cashier, they will encode all your information to the computer while you are looking at it then if all goes well, a picture will be taken.  Thank God my baby cooperated when taking a picture even though we woke her up from her sleep.

My baby was just two (2) months old and she wasn’t sitting yet.  They have a little bed and they spread the same color cloth for the background.  After taking a picture, they have a counter for those who want their passport to be delivered to their house.  We finished in less than 30mins.

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