Exhausting and expensive are the only things we know about having a baby. Are you sure that you are really really ready? Let me tell you five (5) more thoughts to think about again and again.
First, let me share my background. I was the eldest, and I have tried taking care of my sister, we are fourteen years apart. I experienced being sleep deprived and her annoying tantrums. I honestly didn’t want to have babies until I met the man who always makes me happy. And of course, by watching The Return of Superman (Korean Reality Show). Now, we have a two (2) year old and a nine (9) months, baby.
Here, I have gathered five (5) experiences or challenges that I haven’t heard from anyone to get ready with.
1. Passive Income
Once you meet your baby, you will be head over heels in love with him/her. I bet every parent would like to resign from their work so that they could take care of their baby/ies. They also would like to see for themselves their first in everything (first word etc.) It will be tough for you to wake up and perform properly at work because the night wasn’t smooth since you have to wake up multiple times to make milk, carry, and more. Therefore, you should have a passive Income that could cover your monthly bills, so you can focus entirely on taking care of your baby/babies.
2.Change of Lifestyle
Do you usually exercise? This time, even taking a bath would be a challenge. Having your own time is even hard to look for when you knew you are the only one your baby is asking for. You will be told that your baby will cry none stop if you aren’t home. Since you love your baby so much, you would sacrifice that freedom/rest.
3.More house chores
More house chores come in when you have no one to help you with. Just in case you have someone to help you, it means, higher monthly bills, no explanation needed right? Kidding aside, you sometimes would like to double check the work of a nanny.
4. Live exclusively
What I mean by this is living without relatives. Their comments might turn something that can frustrate you, sometimes, makes you feel bad about yourself. And yes, your mindset is the only thing you have and translate their comment into something good but since you are only human, you wouldn’t know what mood you’ll be in when you hear something unpleasant. On the other hand, they are a perfect help if you need to leave your baby.
“Eat when your baby is sleeping”, everyone will tell you that. When your baby is sleeping, you might be sleeping as well because you would want to take that advantage to rest. You can also eat while holding your baby but you won’t be able to enjoy your food. “Have someone hold your baby while eating,” that is possible too but can you manage to see your baby crying while you are eating?
If you have solutions to those, I suggest that you try to babysit for a month, without rest day to feel what you will go through. With all these, looking at your baby is never-ending happiness.